QOTD – What do you most look forward to in your next relationship?

If you are anything like me, the answer to this question changes by the day. SO, you might find me asking you all this once in a while.

Today is one heck of a cold, blustery, grey, Eeyore like days.  One where it is easy to get sad and mopey if you aren’t careful.

Today I am really missing having someone to cuddle up with, talk, hug, kiss and just make a fabulous day out of one where Mother Nature is not cooperating as much as usual.  I look forward to having that back in my life when the right person comes along! 🙂

How about you?

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Question of the Day: Are you a statusmonger?

Status is all around us, impacting our daily lives. You cannot avoid it.  We judge people by where they live, their profession/occupation, what they do or do not drive, the clothes they wear, just to name a few.

Sometimes we are well aware of the assumptions we make about someone and other times we are simply blissfully unaware (or purely ignorant) of it.  Like it or not, we ALL do it in some way. “Judge not, that ye be not judged” – has this given us carte blanche in terms of judging others, telling us that we can judge as long as we are willing to be judged ourselves? (Mom & Dad be proud – I do remember things from all those years you drug me to church!)

I am not perfect (& really, life would be boring if I were.) I would like to say that status does not matter to me at all. On a scale of those living in Calgary, I would venture to guess it matters less to me than it does to many. HOWEVER – I do want someone that is self-sufficient. As long as my potential partner is happy with what they do, or are working towards what they want to be doing, that is what matters most to me.  Granted, I probably would not be happy with someone that was happy to spend their life pouring slurpees for someone else. Ambition is important. Also, I want someone I can be proud of being seen with, so I don’t want someone that is in a constant state of looking like they just rolled out of bed, or drug themselves out from underneath a bar stool.  That said, who someone is inside is much more important to me than who they are on the outside – the inside is what has staying power.

How does status play into your dating and searching for someone you can build a relationship with? 

I would love to hear you thoughts.

(Thank you to @Smudged & @doglover100 for starting this discussion with me yesterday!)

A shift in thinking…

2009 was a HUGE dating year for me.  I made it a priority to get out, mix & mingle and date. A lot. Probably too much.  Wait, not probably. Definitely.

The bad: I went on so many dates, with so many different kinds of people, that I am suffering from major dating burnout.  I think I might be past the burnout part, as I would gladly welcome a date, but still do not have the drive to get out there and make it happen for myself.

The good: Dating so much really reinforced those things that I want in a partner. A few of my friends and acquaintances have scoffed and flat out told me that I am being too picky.  Then there are those that have expressed a gleeful delight in the fact that I am finally at the point where I *know* beyond a doubt what I am looking for.  Those are the friends that have watched me flounder over the years, settling for less than I deserve, getting emotionally banged up along the way.

Funny thing is that while some say I am too picky, those things on the list of things that I want in a partner are not physical qualities (well except for one.) The bulk of them come down to how I expect to be treated by someone.  I have settled on those points in the past and ended up miserable.

The last several years I have been on an extensive, and at times exhausting journey of self-discovery.  I love who I am!  Am I perfect? No. Nobody is. Are there things I need to work on? Yes, we all have those things. As a whole, I am a happy, fulfilled and all around good person at the core. I go out of my way to make the world around me a better place.  I give of myself, through time, effort & sacrifice to do what I can to help many people (and a few organizations) out.  While at times I get worn down, when the rewards for these efforts arrive, they are rich blessings.

One of these days, someone will arrive in my life that will see me for who I am and recognize what I have to offer.

How often do you get those things you do not ask for and work towards? Not very often. I am confident in what I want and know that I also deserve to have those things. Why should anyone have to settle for less than what they need, unless it is a case of something in life being an absolute necessity? Maybe it comes down to the fact that I am happy with my life as it is.  Having someone is just an additional perk. In the meantime, my life will go on and I am happy. Are you?

I would love to hear your thoughts…

Welcome & please excuse the mess!

I have been saying for months, that I would be starting a blog.  Saying & doing are two entirely different beasts.

I am a perfectionist. Well at least in some was I am. In a lot of ways I am not. When it comes to presenting myself in a form such as this, I want things to be just right.  What does that mean? That I never get around to getting things done.

I purchased my url quite some time ago.  And there it sits. I will be the first to admit I do not like these templates.  I need to create something a wee bit more me – this is where I need to start calling on my wonderful friends to give me the assistance and the kick in the pants to do so.

In the mean time, this is better than nothing, right? Perhaps if I just start doing this, the other pieces will fall together – or at least the motivation to make them fit will come.

So welcome!